Christian Marriage

Understanding your spouse in your Christian marriage takes intentional effort.  If you don’t work at it you will find the distance between you and your spouse getting larger.  Here are three ways to keep your marriage alive and your relationship close.

Pray With Your Spouse- Ask your spouse for ways that you can pray for them.  They will give you insight into their concerns and desires when you ask them.  Praying together also encourages one of the bonds of marriage that is often overlooked- the spiritual bond.  So, take action by simply asking, “How can I pray for you?”  After they’ve answered the question, then actually pray with them.  It’s easier than you think.  Just ask God to help them in the areas that they mentioned to you.

Intentional Observation- This can be said as pay close attention as well.  So often we get wrapped up in the details of our own lives, our own hobbies and our own perspectives that we miss what our spouse is going through.  Try asking your spouse about their day and how they feel about things that are happening in the world.  Take note of their reaction to things that happen around your home and how your children’s attitudes affect them.  If you watch on purpose for things to talk about with them, you’ll find a list of things that bring on meaningful conversation and show that you care enough to pay attention to them.

Listen Particularly Well- Most of the time when other people are talking to us, we are think about what we are going to say in return .  Part of really understanding involves listening to what your spouse is saying.  Next time you have a conversation with your spouse, work hard to fully understanding what they are communicating to you.  This is done by avoiding your own response until you have thoroughly explored the meaning behind their words.  Ask questions about what they have said starting your questions with, “Did you mean to say that…?”  Restate in your own words what you think they are really saying, then ask for their confirmation before interjecting your own thoughts.

I invite you to try out some tools for communicating through problems in your marriage in my nine part email course called, “Realignment for your Christian Marriage.”

Find it by clicking this link –     Christian Marriage Help

We all need help in our marriage.  There might be questions in our mind like, “Where do I find help?” or “Who can I trust?”  Some might even say, “No, I can handle it.”

In truth, if we want to see progress in our marriage, we need to get help.  It’s great to have someone from the outside view our relationship and then be able to give us what they see from their point of view.  We have blind spots that sometimes that keep us from making the most of our marriage.  There are volumes of books, tapes and videos available that can help us too.  So why read here at Christian Marriage Help?

I have a perspective.  Since 1987, my wife and I have studied, lived and taught marriage.  I have even put together an online seminar called “Cracking the Communication Code in your Christian Marriage.”  Christian marriage is our focus because we found a life in Christ that is most meaningful and a fulfilling that permeates every part of our lives.  Since God authored marriage, why not get answers from Him?

Through the years of reading and learning from others, we continue to desire to give back what we have gained from others.  So, here we are now at Christian Marriage Help.